As an introvert, I always dread new and unfamiliar conversations. I tend to stutter and scramble for the right words for fear of saying the wrong things and risking giving the wrong impression.
But as introverted as I am, I cannot change the fact that conversations are important in life. They help us connect, learn, and form relationships with others — and I cannot, for the life of me, just stay in my bubble for the rest of my life.
Some may be too shy to initiate, others talk too much, and even confident individuals can sometimes struggle to find the right words. If, like me, you want to improve your conversational skills, here are some of the books that helped me change the game. These books helped this once shy and introverted human being, become a better listener and keep conversations going smoothly. (Yes, it’s possible!!!)
I Never Thought of It That Way by Monica Guzman
With humor, empathy, and intellectual curiosity, Monica Guzman offers readers a fresh perspective on the world and inspires them to be more open-minded and imaginative.
What it’s good for: Talking to someone with whom you have conflicting opinions. It helps break our own biases and echo chambers, allowing us to see and understand other people beyond their beliefs.
Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’tStop Talking by Susan Cain
Susan Cain uses research and personal anecdotes to debunk myths about introverts and show the power of introversion. She highlights the unique talents and contributions of introverts, such as deep thinking, creativity, and empathy. Cain also discusses introverts’ challenges in extrovert-dominated environments and offers practical advice for navigating social situations, workplaces, and personal relationships. “Quiet” is an enlightening and empowering read that seeks to change the way society views and values introverts.
What it’s good for: Introverts who are uncomfortable speaking up and taking space. Extroverts who want to understand and relate to introverts.
Sapiens: A Brief History of Humankind by Yuval Noah Harari
It tells the story of how humans came to dominate the planet, and it explores the impact of technology, religion, and culture. Harari writes in a clear and engaging style, and he weaves together scientific research, anthropology, and philosophy to create a comprehensive and thought-provoking book.
What it’s good for: Understanding other people who we think are different from us by knowing the history of human evolution and culture. Gives new insights into how much we are related to each other no matter our race, nationality, or ethnicity.
The Art of Thinking Clearly by Rold Dobelli
The book identifies and explains common cognitive biases and logical fallacies, and he provides tips on how to avoid them. Divided into short, easy-to-read chapters, the book shares real-world examples to illustrate the points.
What it’s good for: For anyone who wants to improve their decision-making skills and become more critical thinkers.
We Need to Talk: How to Have Conversations that Matter by Celeste Headlee
“We Need to Talk: How to Have Conversations that Matter” by Celeste Headlee
This book emphasizes the value of being curious and showing respect to have meaningful and effective conversations. The author draws from her experience as a journalist and radio host and provides practical tips and insights to improve listening skills, ask better questions, and foster genuine connections.
What it’s good for: Those who forget to *really* listen and understand others. Most of us are guilty of this and might not even know it.
“Books are mirrors: You only see in them what you already have inside you.”
Carlos ruiz zafÓn, the shadow of the wind
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